Honesty Hour, Ask me anything! Nothing will go unanswered
If anyone’s out there, AMA.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever said or heard the following phrase. ‘Hey dude or girl, I love you, no offence, but you’re gaining weight.’ [raises hand] It’s innocent enough; A phrase maybe said out of concern rather than any kind of malicious instinct towards someone you care about. A friend, a family member, or even a public figure that you identify with. You care about their health. How can you not? We just want to give them a little push in the right direction. We wouldn’t want them to get fat. Maybe they don’t even know that they’re gaining weight. They should know!
I’ll let you in on a little secret. We know. It’s like telling your friend who smokes cigarettes, ‘Hey, cigarettes are bad for you.’ If there’s a single person left on the planet that isn’t aware of the dangers of smoking, they’re probably living in some kind of ‘Truman Show’ bubble.
We know that we’re fat! We can see the changes on our body, how our clothes fit, and how people look at us. I’m not even that fat right now! But I used to be.
And even the smallest comments hurt. It’s a reminder that we have failed to conform and that we may be in danger because of our failings.
It’s fat shamming, even when meant altruistically.
[…] Everyone, at some point or another, felt bad about their body. Or their weight. Everyone. There’s no normal. Love yourselves. Love each other. And love your bodies. You’re all beautiful, okay?"
(WARNING: Some NSFW language)
Hi. My name is Zoe, and I make weird video games with some degree of success (and make them playable for free, if you’re so inclined). My life is generally pretty uncomplicated, I guess, aside from the fact that a month ago the Internet decided to make me the center of a supposed global conspiracy. I made the mistake of dating a guy who would later go on to write a several-act manifesto about my alleged sex life and post it to every forum he could create a handle for. Normally, this would blow over with little more than a “whoa, check out THAT guy,” but since I work in an industry that has very strong feelings about women, it quickly mutated from a jilted ex’s revenge-porn to one of the most intense scandals in recent gaming history.
OK, so before the frothing calls of “this is only one side of the story, blah, blah,” here’s the short and skinny of it: It doesn’t matter whether or not you like Zoe Quinn, her game or agree with the things she was accused of by her ex. You can think she is the worst person in the world, the absolute worst. That’s fine, that is your opinion. However, nothing, I repeat NOTHING in this industry warrants death threats, doxxing and harassment. Period.
And if someone on the other side of this “movement” can write a legitimate, reasoned post without using all of the colorful expletives of a George Carlin routine, I’ll happily read it. I won’t agree with it, most likely, but I’ll read. You know what I won’t do? Threaten your life or your personal well being simply for disagreeing with your opinion, because that would be lame and childish.